06 Apr The Inner Chatter
Ever taken note of this constant chatter that goes on within us? If you just pay attention, ‘you’ at any point are telling ‘you’ a hundred things – there’s always an inner dialogue on.
And since it’s always on, why not actually eavesdrop on self and find out what ‘we’ are always saying to ourselves. OK, let’s play a game… Count the number of times you are complimenting yourself as also the number of times you are giving yourself instructions.
My guess is the times you are giving yourself instructions are far more than the times you praise yourself. We go on and on and on.. like an old nagging aunt, assuming our inner selves to be nincompoops who do not know anything!
What this reflects is a complete lack of faith in our innate ability to learn and perform. A child has no one tell him how to sit up – and he does so perfectly. He learns from trial and error and then just goes to perform the task. Similarly, all of us have an inherent style of learning – and our subconscious is almost a storehouse of all the learned behaviors.
When we give ourselves too many instructions or criticize unnecessarily, we show a lack of faith in our subconscious and ultimately come in our own way. Tim Galloway, in his series of books, ‘the inner game….’ describes these two self as self 1 and self 2. Acc to him, self 1(the instructing giving self) interferes with the inherent capabilities of self 2.
It’s an interesting concept – try and trust your intrinsic capabilities and just as an experiment, focus on your achievements. Maybe, just maybe, the inner dialogue will change….it might be interesting as well as useful to become aware of this change too!
And as the inner dialogue changes to one of respect, trust in self-builds up, and your performance might peak too!
Worth an experiment, I’d say